Here it is, February, and it’s urgent for me to send my letter to Cupid ...
Of course I believe in Cupid, as I do in Unicorns (read article) and in Santa Claus.
In the same way that we send a Letter to Santa (to reread), and between us we know very well how much he appreciates, I told myself that I should do the same for Valentine's Day, I’d like to help Cupid to shoot the right arrow this year!
I’ve certainly thought about it a lot, while writing my book My Solo Wedding in Santorini, I know exactly what I’m looking for or rather who I’m looking for...
Cupid, do you know that there are 5 love languages according to Gary Chapman?
• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service
• Physical touch
It works both ways: the person whose love language is receiving gifts for example, will feel loved when someone give them something, but it’s also in this way that they’ll express their affection towards someone they love.
It’s important to know it to be able to communicate serenely.
But to understand exactly what that means, this great video:
Gary Chapman (born in 1938) is an American Baptist pastor, author, and marriage counsellor.
His book The 5 Love Languages: The secret to love that lasts - and others that followed - has helped millions of couples and people in search of their soul mate. There’s a test at the end of the book to determine your language, you can also go to his website: here.
This book is in the library of my Ipad, and I take it with me everywhere!
Cupid, my first love language is "Quality Time", so I'm not necessarily looking for a man who has the same language, but explain to him that to satisfy my love tank, he’ll have to give me time without distraction or phone.
Also, tell him to look at my Blog, he’ll discover a lot about me, we’ll save time.
Above all, he should reread my article Titanium Heart in which I give my definition of love.
If he doesn’t like reading, well, here is the video, easy!
Then, I have very specific and absolutely mandatory requirements:
• Buying me designer shoes. My readers know how important shoes are to me: Article Shoes Forever
• Bringing me a peppermint mocha! I haven't had any since 2017, I'm craving for one: Article Coffee Addict
• Also, I love when someone washes my hair with a scalp massage, that’s why I spend so much time at the hairdressing salon: Article Navy Hair
• Giving me flowers, if possible my favourites: Article Flowers
• Letting me eat chocolate!! This was my 2019 Valentine’s Day post: Chocolate, Sweetheart.
Finally, many years ago, I don't remember how or why, I promised myself to marry the man who would give me a striptease!
Obviously, proof it has never happened before, I married myself.
And male shows like mentioned in my Birthday in London don't count, that would be too easy…
I know Cupid, I ask you a lot, but you know I like challenges and I always encourage people to surpass themselves, you can do it!!
Don’t forget you are the God of Love (in Roman mythology), son of Mars and Venus, nothing is impossible for you.
Don’t hesitate to shoot several arrows, I won’t be offended, the female cheetah, the only feline who chooses the male, sometimes it needs to meet 7 males before deciding.
What I'm doing for Valentine's Day, well, if Cupid hasn't found anyone for me, surely, I’ll do like last year, a good dinner prepared by me, with a good bottle of wine while watching my favourite movie: The Holiday.
This is an old film, but I never get tired of it, I find it very inspiring and it always cheers me up!
If you're single (or not) and have no plans, don't put yourself under pressure, it doesn't matter. Do something you enjoy, hang out with your friends or read my Article Single…
The important thing is to have confidence in the future and to enjoy every moment!
Life is too short and precious to stop smiling.
I never really feel alone because I'm an excellent company! With my Solo Wedding, I discovered all the love and respect I had for myself. Really it all starts here, loving yourself honestly and deeply.
Excerpt from my book My Solo Wedding in Santorini:
I discovered all this love for myself during my solo wedding, I was not aware of it before. I have always had a good self-esteem and self-confidence, but love is something else, it is the ultimate level from which everything flows. We must also embrace our weaknesses and recognise that we are human despite everything, it is normal to have pain, as it is normal to ask for help. Sadness I had a lot, anger too, I went through all the emotions, all phases. To refocus on oneself is not being selfish or egocentric, it is to be shrewd and wise. You know in the plane, during the safety instructions, we are told that when the oxygen masks are released, you must first put it on yourself so that you can take care of others afterwards. To love oneself is the same thing, one must first take care of oneself before being able to love and care for others.
"Love is like breathing. Give & receive, inhale & exhale…" L.
Remember you are my one and only, including you Cupid,
Have a great week and Happy Valentine's Day!
Love & Cupid,